You’re just as likely to hear the phrase “you’re just your dad” in an online conversation as you are in a book or film.
And that’s not because the phrase itself is a new concept, but because the word itself has come to symbolize that very notion.
The word “dad” itself has evolved over time from being a male term meaning a parent to a term used by men to refer to their wives or girlfriends, and it was widely adopted by the gay and lesbian community.
In the 1990s, a woman named Toni Morrison, who was in her 30s, began to use the term in a memoir, “The New Pornographers.”
She used it in an article about her own sexual and romantic life, but in 2003, she came out publicly and wrote about the experience of having to deal with people who had “dads” for a very long time.
The book was a success, and she was subsequently featured in a documentary about her life, “Dads,” which won the 2006 Pulitzer Prize for nonfiction.
Now, the term has become a popular one for women.
As the number of online interactions about gender roles in society continues to grow, the word has become an increasingly prominent one, particularly for those who have experienced the impact of gender-based discrimination.
But there are still some who don’t think they fit the stereotype.
“I think it’s still a very male-oriented term,” said Melissa E. Harris, a social worker and author of the forthcoming book, “I’m Not A Dad: The Misunderstood Truth About Being a Dad in America.”
The word has come a long way in the past half century, Harris said, and many people have tried to convince themselves that they aren’t like their dad.
“But the thing is, I’m a man,” she said.
“I have a son.
I’m just not the kind of guy who’d want to try to be someone else.”
That’s not true, Harris added.
“And I think for many of us, I can be.”
In a 2013 article for The Atlantic, Harris argued that she’s a mom, not a dad.
“My job is to help you understand that your child isn’t a man because he isn’t mine,” she wrote.
“It’s not the role of a mother to be the mother of a boy.
My job is not to be your mother.”
And she’s not alone.
There are a number of men who have come forward to share their stories about having to hide their male identity in order to feel comfortable around women.
“It’s really not a new thing, it’s just an accepted part of society,” said Mark L. Lai, a New York City-based author who has written about gender-variant people.
“The more I talk about it, the more people I see who have told me they don’t fit the norm.
They don’t feel like they’re masculine enough.
They’re not masculine enough to be a dad.”
As the concept of gender roles has evolved, so has the way men have dealt with gender expectations.
In the early days of feminism, it was assumed that men were the ones who had to conform to women’s gender roles.
But as gender equality has become more mainstream, many men have felt that their expectations have shifted, too.
“They have started to say, ‘No, no, no.
I don’t have to be as masculine, I don: I can just be a man,'” Lai said.
He’s a good example of that.
In 2012, Lai’s son was born, and Lai became a father himself.
He said he felt the need to tell his son to be careful, to keep his hair in place, to make sure that he wore the appropriate shirt and tie.
But that was a change from his earlier experience.
“You know, it just sort of happened,” he said.
“‘Oh, he’s not a man.
He’s a boy.'”
It’s a transition that has been difficult for Lai.
“You know what, I think I’m an exception,” he acknowledged.
“For many men, I just think, ‘Well, I do not fit that mold.'”
But Lai also feels that many men are willing to change.
“Some men are very vocal about being transgender, and I think that’s okay,” he explained.
“They are telling other people.
They are going out and doing things.
But they’re also talking about it in a very public way, and they’re not afraid of it.”
Lai said he knows that his son’s gender identity will continue to be part of his family for the rest of his life.
But he’s proud of the fact that his boy will be the son of a man, he said, noting that he wants him to be happy.
“He’s my son, and we’re going to have a great life together,” he concluded.